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11/27/2020 2 Comments

Prepare for a Tough Encounter in 12 Steps

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Tough encounters can be stressful. And overall, a little positive stress can motivate you. Positive stress can help you focus. This type of stress is the butterflies in your stomach before you speak before a group. Positive stress can increase your commitment to a positive outcome.
 
 Negative stress on the other hand can likely prepare you to bicker and quarrel. That would make a tough encounter even tougher.
 
Here are some suggestions to reduce negative stress before you enter into what could become a difficult discussion.
 
But, first, you’ll want to decide on the role that you are going to play – will you present with positive stress or negative stress?
 
Prepare mentally (1, 2, 5, 8, 10, 12), physically (3, 4), and emotionally (6, 7, 9, 11) for the discussion by following these steps
  1. Make your decision – will you do what it takes for peaceful resolution or do you plan to be RIGHT?
  2. Think positively “I know I can handle this” or “I will be okay” or “I have control of myself”
  3. Take some deep breaths while you relax your shoulders
  4. Smile and relax you face
  5. Know your options – you’re not stuck! You can take a break when you need to regroup
  6. When necessary, regain your positive stress (return to step one)
  7. Relax, allow the other person to speak first without interruption
  8. Listen carefully and take your time before answering
  9. Slow down and think through your responses
  10. Carefully choose your response
  11. If you're being criticized, don't fight back or overtalk
  12. Calm the situation by giving reasonable (and available) compromises that you can live with
 
Would you like more information about this topic? Or how about a brief, no-judgement discussion of your current situation? Contact my offices at (336) 999-4533 or email me at DonnaColes.Coach@gmail.com and we’ll schedule a time to discuss your personal development challenges and identify some options that will help.
 
Or, Click the following link to schedule your discussion with me.
https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18102228 

Until then…


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    Donna Coles
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    My Transition From Psychotherapist to Personal Development Coach...

    I was a successful psychotherapist for 30-plus years and I’m still licensed in my home state of Ohio. Two years ago, I made significant adjustments to my life and career and focused my work solely on Coaching.

    Since then, I’ve been asked “how does that fit?”.

    Truth is, some people participate in psychotherapy to help “clarify some things” in their lives and to find direction. For them. it’s a wonderful revelation to know that finding their inner strengths in times of trouble and gaining clarity about current life situations is not a sign of weakness at all. It's a sign of strength.

    It has been said that the most effective coaches draw heavily on theories in psychology and skills-building methods. Both coaching and psychotherapy deal with behavior, emotions and thoughts.

    I have learned that an important key to living an effective life is self-awareness. For this to occur, it often means a journey beyond our current life events and a focus on "why" those events occur. In coaching, I help identify “why” and support my clients’ development of skills to live the life they would like.

    I encourage you to consider working with a professional who provides experience, wisdom and support -- and who also provides you with agreed upon methods of accountability to help encourage you to get things done.

    And, of course, I’d like for you to contact me.

    Would you like more information about my Personal Development Coaching? Or how about a brief, confidential, no-judgement discussion of your current situation? We’ll see if our working together is a good fit.

    Contact my offices at (336) 999-4533 during regular business hours (Eastern Time) or email me at DonnaColes.Coach@gmail.com and we’ll schedule our “getting to know you” conversation.

    Or, Click the following link to schedule a time to talk with me.
    https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18102228  

    Until then…

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