Tough encounters can be stressful. And overall, a little positive stress can motivate you. Positive stress can help you focus. This type of stress is the butterflies in your stomach before you speak before a group. Positive stress can increase your commitment to a positive outcome. Negative stress on the other hand can likely prepare you to bicker and quarrel. That would make a tough encounter even tougher. Here are some suggestions to reduce negative stress before you enter into what could become a difficult discussion. But, first, you’ll want to decide on the role that you are going to play – will you present with positive stress or negative stress? Prepare mentally (1, 2, 5, 8, 10, 12), physically (3, 4), and emotionally (6, 7, 9, 11) for the discussion by following these steps
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What makes us the most comfortable may be what stands in the way of our progress. Our comfort zones are our habits that help us reduce stress in the moment. When overused, our comfort zones contribute to loss of productivity. They become our extended or habitual escapes from our realities. When we engage in many of the activities listed below too often or for too long, we feel good about ourselves, we seem busy, we enjoy our mental get-away, and in some cases we avoid conflict. However, we miss opportunities to meet our goals, become more self-motivated, enhance our emotional growth, and make ourselves accountable. If you find a comfort zone activity in this list that you overuse, perhaps this is an opportunity for self-improvement and accountability. Take a look. See if you have an opportunity to improve your use of time. Task-related
Time Management-related
Personal Escapes-related
Relationship-related
Technology-related
You may have a comfort zone that’s not included on the list. Add it to the list and make a decision about how you will use each of your comfort zones. Perhaps they can be used as rewards for a job well done and not an escape from doing a job. Best wishes! Want to schedule a brief no-judgement discussion of your current situation? Contact my offices at (336) 999-4533 during regular business hours (Eastern Time), email me at DonnaColes.Coach@gmail.com or, Click the following link to schedule https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18102228 Until then… Ask yourself, are you satisfied with your physical health status? The status of your healthy thinking? Your emotional well-being? Your social life? Or, your spiritual life?
Overall, to have a balanced life is to have satisfaction in these areas. But, keep in mind that no ones life is perfectly balanced. With Life Balance comes the right amount of self-care and connection with your world. You’ll have what you need to fully engage in activities that are required of you. And you’ll have what you need to engage in activities that bring you personal satisfaction. In previous posts I suggested ways to identify how you currently spend your time and how you would like to spend your time. I suggested that you create a plan to close the gap between the two life experiences. After creating your Life Balance plan, here are some suggestions to maintain your Life Balance. SUGGESTIONS a. Identify what you require on a regular basis to maintain your Life Balance. What do you need? How will you get it? b. Set your priorities for how you’ll manage your Life Balance routine. What’s your plan to get what you need? c. Follow your routines that honor your priorities. How will you hold yourself accountable? d. Communicate your priorities to those who can help you stay on track. Perhaps a buddy-system? e. Modify your responsibilities and manage your time more effectively. Will you enlist help, return a task to its rightful owner, abandon an unnecessary task, spend more time on a task, spend less time on a task, share responsibility for completion of a task? Want to schedule a brief no-judgement discussion of your current situation? Contact my offices at (336) 999-4533 during regular business hours (Eastern Time), email me at DonnaColes.Coach@gmail.com or, Click the following link to schedule https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18102228 Until then… In Part 1 of this series, I suggested that:
1. Life Balance is a momentary (or longer) experience of being okay with the five important areas that make up our lives. 2. Those five life areas are your physical health, your healthy thinking, your emotional well-being, your social life, and your spiritual life. 3. Life Balance is not perfection, it’s “playing the hand that you’re dealt” and living your best life. In this, Part 2, I’m suggesting that you identify those areas of your life that contribute to your Life Balance and imbalance. Keep in mind that any life event, from winning the lottery to losing a loved one, can change our Life Balance. “Life” happens to our lives every day. Take some time to identify how you currently spend your time, how you would like to spend your time, and begin to create a plan to close the gap between your two life experiences. QUESTIONS a. Does your idea of a balanced life match your real life? What’s the one imbalance that stands out the most? What are you willing to do to improve in this area? b. Which area of your life receives too much attention? Too much of your time? c. Which area of your life receives too little attention? Too little of your time? d. Develop your plan. What can you do to spend the right amount of time in those areas? e. Who, if anyone, must be included in your Life Balance plan to help assure success? f. What will you change right away (today) to have more time for what’s important to you? g. What changes will take some time to put into place? h. What situations cannot be changed and must be accepted? (“Play the hand you’re dealt”) Part 3 of this series is planned for tomorrow. Want to schedule a brief no-judgement discussion of your current situation? Contact my offices at (336) 999-4533 during regular business hours (Eastern Time), email me at DonnaColes.Coach@gmail.com or, Click the following link to schedule https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18102228 Until then… Today’s lifestyle is filled with questions that some of us have never asked or answered. We’re facing new realities and new normals. We’re also experiencing losses and welcoming gains. And those gains, no matter how large or small, are meaningful to us and provide greater Life Balance. What’s Life Balance? It’s that momentary (or longer) experience of being okay with the five important areas that make up our lives. What are those five life areas? Your physical health, your healthy thinking, your emotional well-being, your social life, and your spiritual life. Keep in mind that Life Balance is not perfection. It’s “playing the hand that you’re dealt” and living your best life. So, my Part 1 suggestion for you is: Take a look at those five areas of your life and identify the one thing you’ll begin doing today that will lead you closer to living your best life? Want to schedule a brief no-judgement discussion of your current situation? Contact my offices at (336) 999-4533 during regular business hours (Eastern Time), email me at DonnaColes.Coach@gmail.com or, Click the following link to schedule https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18102228 Until then… |
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