Know Thyself. Eight Signs of Healthy Emotional Control

Healthy emotional control occurs when we self-monitor our emotions and make adjustments when faced with environmental triggers. Our emotional adjustments are made for our benefit and for the benefit of others.
 
Healthy emotional control requires each of us to monitor the emotional responses of others and to humbly self-adjust to achieve positive outcomes. We, in effect, respect others’ emotions – even when they seem over-the-top.
 
Healthy emotional control is also our drive to discriminate among our emotions as we experience them. For example, we discriminate our agitation from our emotional fatigue. Or discriminate emotional frustration from the emotions that accompany physical hunger because we skipped lunch that day.
 
To avoid allowing our emotional reactions to get the best of us, we should work to acknowledge them, name them, control them, and evaluate their strength to avoid allowing environmental triggers to send US over-the-top.
 
Here are eight signs that you have healthy emotional control. Perhaps use this list to celebrate your strengths and to identify areas in need of development.

1. Accurate self-assessment and ownership of your areas in need of growth
2. Accurate adjustment to each of your environments        
3. Avoidance of labeling others because of their shortcomings
4. Avoidance of the domino effect that takes you from thoughts to emotions to physical actions/reactions at lightning speed
5. Control the feelings that trigger impulsive decisions and actions
6. Think things through, seek counsel, welcome new information and calming advice
7. Seek to understand the emotions of others – you don’t have to agree, simply understand
8. Engage with others and abide by the signals suggesting that it’s time to “let it go”

 
Portions of this article are excerpts from my book “Lead or Someone Else Will: A Coach’s Guide to Leadership”. It can be found on Amazon.com.
 
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Until then…
 

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